4 Lessons Learned In My Third First Year of Teaching

back to schoolSeptember is here, which means the beginning of another school year. This last school year was particularly important to me because it marked my first year back in the classroom after a six-year hiatus. After two difficult years teaching in two different schools, I seriously questioned if this was the right field for me. While working in several other fields, I realized that many of my frustrations with teaching were not unique to the teaching profession. Instead, I was just learning how to navigate my way successfully in the professional world. It doesn’t matter if I’m teaching middle school or waiting tables, I now know that wherever I am, I need to find the balance of being a team player while advocating for myself, know how to have honest, difficult conversations with co-workers, and know how to be solution-oriented instead of whining about what makes me unhappy.

I couldn’t be more thrilled at my decision to take a third try at classroom teaching and I’m proud to announce that I survived this last school year (and even thrived at some points).

As a new school year begins, I’d like to share four lessons I learned in my third first year of teaching.

Lesson #1: Celebrate the little victories.

There are days when everything feels wrong. What seems like an interesting way to teach compound sentences falls flat on its face. Or maybe the kids just aren’t grasping the best ways to explain their evidence and I can’t think of a new way to present the material in the moment. Other days the clouds are making us want to put our heads down, I didn’t drink enough coffee (is there such a thing?), my desk is overrun with paperwork, grades are due, and I accidentally threw away everyone’s graphic organizers that we needed in order to complete the day’s writing activity.

Then, I look out at the class and see a reluctant writer writing non-stop for twenty minutes without even looking up. Or there’s the girl, who has struggled staying focused, working feverishly on her essay and can’t help but shout out, “I actually like your class!” Another day it’s the quiet kid who excitedly waves his hand in the air and demands to lead the class discussion on double negatives. There’s the kid who shrieks on the playground and almost falls over when he finds out he’s passing all of his classes. These are the little victories that make the challenging times worth it, and they deserve to be celebrated daily.

Lesson #2: Remember the why.

As someone who is often way too hard on herself, inevitably self-doubt creeps in especially in the cold dark months of January and February. Why am I doing this, I would ask myself. Why didn’t I just give up after two marginally successful years of teaching? What makes this time different? Maybe I should’ve just given up the teaching profession all together.

Proud teacher!
              Proud teacher!

Then, I remember my why. Why do I teach? I teach because I firmly believe in the power of education as what could be the great equalizer, but there’s still so much more work to do. I believe in the limitless potential of students and that they need unrelenting adults who work together to light the fires that are within them. I believe in the little victories that make teaching worth it.

Ultimately, I acknowledge the feelings of self-doubt, but then I move on and trust that I’m doing the right thing because it’s the decision I made for me.

Lesson #3: It’s not supposed to be easy. Nothing is.

I often think of the words Tom Hank’s character in A League of Their Own says when one of his top players, Geena Davis’s character, says she’s quitting the league. She says it just got too hard. He responds, “If it wasn’t hard everyone would do it. The hard is what makes it great.” I feel that way about the teaching profession. The hard is what makes teaching great. Are there days where I wish I could squeeze in a game of tennis after work followed by a long dinner? Of course. Do I gaze longingly at my non-teaching friends’ Instagram pictures of their afternoon meetings around the company keg and subsequent happy hour jaunts? Maybe a little. But, I wouldn’t trade the opportunity to be inside the classroom for anything else.

Lesson #4: Perspective is key.

When I worked at the restaurant, our manager would sometimes ask at the beginning of a shift if we thought our work would cause us to lose a limb or even worse, kill us. The answer was always no. He would then say something to the effect of say exactly, you won’t die while working tonight so relax. I think about this when I need a little perspective. As a classroom teacher, the stakes always feel high. After all, this is someone’s education we’re talking about. When things don’t go as planned, or if students don’t score as well on a test as I’d hoped, it can feel as serious as losing a limb. However, in those moments, it’s important to have some perspective and remember I’m doing the best that I can. I take the work seriously, but I can’t take myself too seriously because that’s when things go awry.

I am so delighted to be returning to my school for a fourth year of teaching and am looking forward to all of the nuggets of wisdom I will gain this year. To all you teachers out there, have a great school year!

11 Invaluable Life Lessons from a Coach

At the twilight of another Olympiad, the world prepares to return to business as usual.  Athletes reflect on their golden moments while others mourn the loss of “what could have been.” Fans return to their regularly scheduled programming and embrace the fact that they can no longer use “I was watching the Olympics” as an excuse for everything.
Although I was never an Olympic athlete, I did spend 14 years in competitive swimming.  Watching the Olympics always brings up memories of being a competitive athlete; the sacrifices, the triumphs, the disappointments, being supported by a coach.   I spent 10 years training with the same coach and when you spend that much time with a person, it’s impossible to forget all of his or her motivational sayings no matter how hard you try.
Everybody can benefit from the guidance of a good coach at some point in their life.  We all need a good kick in the pants every now and then.  In the spirit of the Olympics and training with a coach,  I’ve complied a list of 11  Invaluable Life Lessons as told by my former swim coach.  Consider this your good kick in the pants for the time being!
 
1) I’d rather be oh and twenty than oh and oh. Better to try and fail than to never try at all.  Samuel Beckett had a card on his desk that embodied this idea: “Fail.  Fail again.  Fail better.”
 
2)  Have a little pride. Remember that your work, your actions are a reflection of YOU! Don’t want to tarnish that good name of yours.
 
3) Be able to look at your competitor and say, “I’ve worked harder than you and I want this more than you.” Make this a true statement.  Work harder than your competition.  If you believe you are the greatest, you will rise to your expectations.
 
4)  Hope to meet your competitor on their best day, rather than their worst. You don’t want to win the Gold Medal in say Women’s aerial skiing just because the favorite slipped and fell.  You want to win because you are the best in the field! 
 
5) It’s time to light the fire under your rear.  Any time my coach  yelled this sentence in my general direction before a race, I always dropped at least 2 seconds off my best time.  Passion ignites success!
 
6) Find the path of least resistance. Originally said in the context of stroke technique, this principle can be applied to life.  Whatever you decide to do in life should not be a constant struggle or cause conflict. In other words, “get in where you fit in.”
 
7) When the race is over, get out of the pool like an athlete. It’s important to carry yourself in the way you wish to be perceived.  To this day, I still feel a little guilty if I exit a pool using my knees. 
 
8 )  Get your priorities straight. We were told our priorities were family, school, swimming, end of story.  When you have your priorities firmly laid out, there’s no getting distracted from the task at hand.
 
9) I don’t need any more friends, I have my own. This was often said in response to my bratty comments.  As a 10-year-old, I talked back and thought, ‘that’ll really show this guy!’  However, my coach reminded me that he had a delightful group of friends at home, thus my approval of him was not necessary or needed.  You don’t need everyone you meet to be your friend, you simply need to be able to maintain a working relationship.
 
10) There are billions of people in China who don’t care how
you swim today. Or as Dr. Phil once declared, “People don’t think about you as much as you think they do!” Put your life into perspective.  Not that many people care about what you do, so no need to worry what other people may think.
 
11)  Excuses aren’t printed on the results. “Wait…but…I…if only…see what had happened was…but…” No excuses!  Do or do not, there is no try (thanks for that one, Yoda).